Below are the notes from last week's class. (
The KEY is online.)
Dumb Attitude #5: “My Lover Should Read My Mind”Women talk in _________. Men listen in ________.
Men are usually waiting for the ______________. For women, it’s about the ________ of relationship. If you short-circuit the ________, she may begin to feel like it’s not _______ to share her thoughts and feelings. (Sometimes, it’s the other way around.)
Lifeline #21 In good relationships, talking is _______ and _________. “An honest answer is like a ____________________ ” (Proverbs 24:26).
Lifeline #22 _______ and ________ can—and must—go together to preserve your connection, and acting on the following tips for connecting first with grace can help.
- __________ you partner first.
- Listen to your partner’s perspective before _______________.
- Listen to your own ___________ in what you are saying.
- Affirm that the issue you’re talking about is _______________ of your relationship.
- Take a ______________.
- Don’t use ___________ language.
- Keep the ___________ in mind.
- Listen and ____________ your partner’s perspective.
Lifeline #23 Begin with the ________ in mind: knowing and understanding one another more.
Lifeline #24 You can’t _________ someone you don’t _______. The more you _________, the more you’ll know.
Lifeline #25 The more effective you become at stopping the _________ that block your communication, the more effective you’ll be in finding each other’s _____________.
In this week's class, we'll be talking about "Fighting Fair."
If you are unable to
join us in class, you can order the book and follow along with us online. You may also want to consider other books from our
Recommended Reading List.
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At OCCC, we believe
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Understanding MenSaturdays 10:30am - 11:45am
Do you have a hard time understanding the man in your life? This information and discussion group focuses on more effective ways to relate to your partner to help you both have a more satisfying relationship. This new group, for women only, is now forming. Please call 714-865-2164 for details.
For more information, please feel free to call:
Dr. Debi Smith
Licensed Psychologist PSY21711
Director, OC Christian Counseling Associates
714-865-2164
Note: All information provided is for general informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for a professional evaluation. If you are experiencing emotional distress, please contact a mental health professional.
It’s what you say that counts: Women were taught to talk openly about their feelings when they were little girls, so it’s not surprising that 80% of relationship issues are brought up by women. They often spent school recess sharing secrets with their “best” friend. Feeling close and being able to trust each other is the hallmark of female friendship.
It’s what you do that counts: Men learned a different way of developing friendships. As boys, they spent recess running around in “herds,” playing anything that meant lots of action, and trying to one-up each other. Don’t be a girl! Never let ‘em see ya sweat!
