Perfectionism

Below are the notes from last week's class. The KEY is available online.
Dumb Attitude #3: “My Lover Should Be Perfect for Me”

For better ____ for worse: Marriage isn’t a lifelong visit to __________!

Lifeline #11 Remember that the ______ person doesn’t exist. It is possible to live happily—although imperfectly—ever after!

Discussion Topic: How do we balance _____ and _____ in our relationships? What do the following phrases mean to you?

• Being for your spouse
• Being for your relationship

Lifeline #12 Acknowledge your need for _____.

Brainstorm: Who do you see your spouse becoming? Discuss your hopes for each other in regard to your goals for:

Spiritually
Emotionally
Mentally
Professionally

Lifeline #13 Life isn’t about settling for the status quo. Relationships can provide the groundwork for growing and becoming better than we are now.

Lifeline #14 Embrace your _____. Without them, one of you wouldn’t be necessary!

Discussion Topic: What keeps you from freely and consistently giving your spouse the gift of “simply being _____ ”?

Lifeline #15 Even during conflict, find ways to make yourselves _____, not _____.

_____ are better than _____,
because they have a good return for their work:
If one falls down,
his friend can help him up.
But pity the man who falls
and has no one to help him up!
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep _____.
But how can one keep _____ alone?
Though one may be overpowered,
two can _____ themselves.
A cord of _____ strands is not quickly broken.
(Ecclesiates 4:9-12)

In this week's class, we'll be talking about "Hurting Each Other."
If you are unable to join us in class, you can order the book and follow along with us online. You may also want to consider other books from our Recommended Reading List.